Signs That You Are Ready For A Baby

Every couple, whether married or living together, comes to a point when the topic of having a baby comes up. While some may immediately know whether they are ready or not, there are some who are not very sure of it. Some individuals can ascertain even before they met their partners that they want to have kids some day. For these people, meeting someone and letting pheromones work is just the start. A couple may know that kids are in their future; the question is when they are ready to start having them.

Below are some signs that may indicate your readiness for a baby.

• You are secure. Being mentally, emotionally, and financially secure will definitely make your foray into parenthood a bit easier. A lot of people can prepare all they want but they may still seem unprepared when that time comes. Making sure that you are emotionally and financially ready to have a baby will help a lot.
• You are ready to clean poop. There are many difficult tasks involved in having a baby and cleaning poop is considered by many to be their baptism into parenthood. Do not worry, it only takes two to three poop-cleaning tasks and then you would easily get the hang of it from there. Bundle this with all the other baby tasks such as putting the baby to sleep and giving baby a bath.
• You and your partner have adjusted to life together. Adding another creature to your tandem will take some adjustment so it is very important that the two of you have adjusted well already to your life together. This will allow you to focus on adjusting to the baby and not to each other. It may take some time before you can put on that pheromone perfume and go out with your partner on a real date so you need to make sure that your relationship can handle being put in the backseat for the mean time.
• You love babies and kids. If you cannot stand having a baby around and you can barely hold a baby in your arms, then it might not be the right time to have one. On the other hand, if you find yourself wanting to hold every baby that comes your way and you think you can handle taking care of one for hours on end, then you can probably handle it well if you go and have a baby soon.

Tips For Discussing Homosexuality With Children

A few decades ago, homosexuality has been reduced to a taboo – shunned by most people and deemed unacceptable by a lot of societies. Nowadays, it is a completely different case. More and more homosexuals are coming out from the works and are slowly (but surely) making their voices heard. In fact, in some states, homosexual is already recognized as a separate gender and marriages between homosexuals are now considered legal. Although the role of genes, human pheromones, and other factors has not been proven, homosexuality has slowly been mostly accepted by a lot of people. However, because of the sensitive nature of this particular topic, parents cannot help but find it very awkward to discuss with children.

Here are some tips you might want to consider for discussing homosexuality with your children.

• Treat the matter objectively. The easiest way to discuss any topic is to approach it objectively. Just like when you are explaining the subject of reproduction (which is also quite a sensitive topic in itself) to kids, you treat it without any malice or with as less subjectivity as possible. It only gets awkward if you are expecting to integrate values or principles with it or when you expect the listener to share the same values or opinions you have on the matter. Remember, these are children. Treat them as blank slates – clean, pure, but unfortunately easily swayed. You will make it easier for you and them to stick to simple definitions absent opinion and social values. Most of all, do not get into the side of attraction between the same gender or if there is any pheromone advantage between homosexuals.
• Be open-minded. It is usually difficult to talk objectively about a topic when you have a strong bias for or against it. This is one problem that parents often have. Since they have their own opinions on homosexuality, they cannot help but discuss it with their children subjectively. This results in more difficult questions. Why is it bad to be gay? Why do you not want us to be gay? And so on and so forth. Save yourself the trouble of answering these questions by being open minded about homosexuality. This will make the discussion easier and more free-flowing because you can look at it from more than just one angle.
• Research on the matter beforehand. Arm yourself with as much technical information about homosexuality as possible. This will make answering questions easy. There are tons of information on the matter available online. You can even site them as references should your kids question your credibility because they usually do. You do not have to interview a homosexual if you do not want to but it would still be of great help if you get some firsthand information.