If you are
well versed with the general definitions of an open relationship and you think
you are suited to being in one, then here are some tips that might just help
start or last in an open relationship.
Get involved with people who share
the same opinions of the relationship as you.
There is no
strict boundary that defines an open relationship. The limits and expectations
that provide a guideline for the relationship is very much specific to the
people involved in it. Arrangements basically differ from couple to couple, so
if you are planning to be in one, it would be easier to get involved with a
partner that has the same ideals or understanding of the situation as you. This
makes it more convenient to talk about the limitations or expectations that
would be imposed on each other.
Communicate regularly with your
partner.
Like in any
relationship, an open relationship will also change depending on how the couple
responds to outside influences (especially since this type of relationship is
more prone to outside pressure). It is very important that you and your partner
are always aware of the changes in each others’ feelings and understanding of
the situation so that you do not fall apart. Constant communication is a must
in order for this particular setup to work. Because of the sheer nature of an
open relationship, there are more sensitive complications to it compared to a
regular exclusive one. Talk to your partner if he/she is still comfortable with
developments to your arrangements. Remember that people’s feelings change. If
you both feel that the relationship is progressing because of the inclusivity
(or the lack of exclusivity), then you can expect the relationship to last.
Prioritize your partner
Regardless
of what your reasons are for being open in the relationship, you should always
remember that your partner is your priority. Your obligations, time, and
attention to your partner should never be compromised by the openness of your relationship.
No matter how effectively your pheromones attract women, your partner
should still be your priority. This is an effective means to prevent distrust
and jealousy to build between couples.
Set limitations that are to be
mutually followed by the couple.
Talk about
what makes you uncomfortable in the open nature of the setup. Simple demands
such as no using of pheromone perfume, no dating in your special place,
and such should be discussed early on. Questions such as when the other one is
allowed to date, or with which people they can date, should be clear to both
partners. You see, despite not being exclusive, an open relationship is still
supposed to be founded on trust. In order to maintain this trust, limitations
are necessary.